Healthier Scotland. Scottish Government

Breaking bad news

Telling partners about positive results

Telling a partner to their face you have a sexually transmitted infection can be very difficult.

They may be shocked, upset, angry or even feel guilty if they think they might have given it to you.

However, if you value their wellbeing and your relationship together, you need to let them know.

Also, if you get treated successfully but they still have the infection but don't know, they could re-infect you at a later date.

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It doesn't mean anyone's been unfaithful

Although a positive result could mean one of you has been unfaithful, many sexually transmitted infections can go undetected for years. Make sure your partner understands this.

This is why it's important for both partners to get tested if you're thinking about stopping using protection or about having a family together.

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You don't have to tell partners and former lovers person-to-person

In relationships, openness and honesty are usually best.

However, if you think your relationship cannot handle such news, or you worry your partner could become violent, there are other ways of letting them know.

You can give your partner's name and address, to your sexual health service. You should also give details for other people you've had sex with.

The service will then send an anonymous card inviting them to come in for a test.

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