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Turn ons

Mood killer? Actually, quite the opposite

The best way to find out what your partner does and doesn't want is to talk to them before you end up in the sack. For tips on how to talk and listen well, see our page on good communication.

Some people think talking about sex might kill the romance. In fact, talking it can be quite a turn-on itself and a good way to get in the mood.

Turn-ons

When it comes to sex, everybody is different and everyone likes different things. It can take a long time (and a few mistakes!) to figure out what your partner likes. Exploring each other is part of the fun, but you can save a lot of time by just asking them what they like.

Once they've let you know about something that turns them on, you can tell them what you like. Try and stick to just one or two things at a time though - otherwise it could all get a bit much.

Sex can get boring if you only ever do the same things in the same ways. So talk about trying new or different things before you try them. That way, you’ll both be reassured about what will happen during sex and it’ll stay exciting.