Healthier Scotland. Scottish Government

Turn offs

Why talk about turn-offs?

It's better to talk about turn-offs before you start having sex than having to deal with them during sex. Encountering a turn-off will at best dent your fun, or it could put you off entirely.

By talking about what you do and don't like, you'll get a much better idea of whether or not you're suited to each other. This could help you avoid ending up in bed with someone you'll regret sleeping with.

Don't worry that talking will take away the 'mystery of romance'. Quite the opposite in fact – talking about sex can be quite saucy, a good laugh, and can be a great way to get you both in the mood.

If you can't talk about sex with someone you're thinking of sleeping with, you should consider whether you two are ready for sex.

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Serious turn-offs

Everyone is different, but some things are an outright no-no and nobody should have to put up with them.

Getting thrills from sexual violence, threats or intimidation is neither healthy nor normal and is most likely against the law.

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