Healthier Scotland. Scottish Government

Testing

Why talk about testing? The happy reasons ...

Aside from not having any kind of sexual contact, no method offers 100% protection against all sexually transmitted infections. The only other way to be totally safe is for both partners to get tested.

If you're with someone for a while and have sex together regularly, eventually a condom may burst, a dam may slip or something may get spilled.

Also, if you're with someone for a long time, you might want to change contraception or protection methods or you might want to start a family. If so, you should both get a test.

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Affairs

If you've had an affair and had an accident with a condom or other type of protection or not practised safe sex, you should get a test. Not only that, you need to tell your regular partner what's happened so they can get a test too.

We understand that this could spell the end of your relationship with them but if they catch something nasty from you and it goes untreated, it could seriously damage their health and shorten their life.

Don't let what's happened endanger your sexual health or theirs.

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If you're having symptoms

If you start having symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection, you should speak to someone about getting tested.

If you're with a long-term partner, this could be embarrassing for both of you, but don't jump to conclusions!

Many STIs don't give symptoms straight away and can go undetected for years. Just because you start having symptoms doesn't mean either of you has been unfaithful but you do both need to get tested.

Find out more about common STI symptoms – try our Symptom-o-tron

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How to talk about testing

Starting a conversation about testing can be tricky. Here are a few things to keep in mind that should make things go easier:

Choose your moment

Unless your partner is insisting you do something that's not safe (like having unprotected sex), conversations about testing are best avoided when you're having or about to have sex.

Choose a time when both of you are relaxed, clear-headed and not stressed out by other things.

Choose your place

Find somewhere quiet where you can both get comfortable and won't be disturbed. Switch off the telly!

Don't beat about the bush

Being coy or dropping hints will just confuse things and could worry your partner.

As a way of getting started, you could ask them if they've ever had a test before.

Reassure them

The best way is probably just to say, gently and clearly, "I'd like us both to get tested for sexually transmitted infections".

Your partner might think you suspect them of having an affair or that you've been unfaithful. Assuming this is not the case, reassure them that this is about your health and your life together. Let them know their health, your health and your future together are important to you.

Give them reasons

Let them know why getting tested is a good idea (see happy reasons) – and what it will mean to you and your sex life together.

If you're having symptoms, you should tell them.

Be prepared for surprises

In talking about testing for the first time, you might learn some things you didn't know about your partner and their sexual history. This can stir up all kinds of emotions.

Try to remember that we all have histories and that people do change. Remind yourself what it is you like and value about this person and try not to get distracted or upset about things that happened in the past.

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