Healthier Scotland. Scottish Government

Communication is essential for good relationships and good sex and as a sex therapist I go on and on and on about communication because often the couples who come and see me have stopped communicating and if you don’t communicate you are not going to get any better.

Communication is a key part of a relationship, I think it is often overlooked, but I think by good communication people can begin to understand what it is that they enjoy about the relationship whether that is just on a non-physical content and it also opens up the conversation when you are ready to engage in sexual activity. People can find out an awful lot more about themselves, their likes, their dislikes about whether its around intimacy or whether its just around just chatting about sex. So there is lots to be gained by having a good open channel for communication in a relationship.

Good communication is really important in sex and relationships. It certainly makes a lot more fulfilling and emotionally much better for people. I think it’s also important so that people are open and honest with each other and take a degree of responsibility for their own well being and the well being of others. I think if you care for someone the only sensible thing to do is to actually communicate openly and basically be quite transparent and honest about what you’ve been doing in the past and hope that they will do the same for you.

Good communication is essential if you are going to have a good relationship and that takes time and it also takes trust because in order to communicate how you really feel about the situation and about what’s happening you do run the risk of your partner being perhaps a little bit hurt but if your relationship is good enough to be able to tolerate honesty, I believe it is very important.

Communication is vital to good sex in a relationship. Sex is, not always, but often about two people, or more and discussing it and talking about it and saying what feels right for you and what feels right for your partner. That’s the way to have good sexual health, is to be able to be honest to say, “I don’t like that or I would like to try that, what do you feel about that”. That is the way to have a good time.